Boys or Girls?

Should transgender people be allowed to use any restroom they identify with? Some believe so.

I find it very interesting that when a major event occurs in this country, within an hour or two, thousands of bloggers and journalists are posting their reactions, analysis, and opinions on what just occurred.  We will read hundreds of knee jerk reactions until we realize the story has completely changed as originally reported, or that some new facts have surfaced that take it in a different direction.  I try not to overreact, but naturally as a human being I definitely have my moments.  I live in beautiful western North Carolina, and just down the road is Charlotte, NC, one of the larger cities in the United States.  On February 22, 2016, I read the news that the Charlotte city council voted 7-4 to pass an ordinance that allowed transgender people to use the bathroom of the sex they identify with, not the sex they were born with.

I was immediately irate.  Here we go again listening to people who are telling us that the sky is purple when it is obviously blue.  Carolina blue, actually.  I became more enraged as I researched and found that Charlotte is far from the only municipality that has passed or is trying to pass similar ordinances.  In fact, several college campuses are joining in the “fight for equality” for transgender people.  I was about to start typing many, many angry words pertaining to this issue, but I decided to at least look around on the glorious internet for some sign that allowing transgenders this convenience is appropriate.

I’ve been going at this all morning.  Why are people transgender to begin with?  I had no idea what I was getting into.  Why do people really identify with the opposite gender of their anatomy?  I could only assume is was environment, or possibly an attention seeking stunt pulled by those who needed it, or maybe even some mental sickness or dysfunctional syndrome that confused the person.  Then I thought about hermaphrodites, or people born with both male and female anatomy.  Do these people really exist?  Well, from most of what I read they really don’t.  It appears most “experts” state that no person can literally have both a fully formed penis and a functioning vagina; that would be duplication, which would be similar to having four arms or four legs.

What is actually going on is not hermaphroditism (is that a word?), but an intersex condition; mixed or misidentified genitalia.  When you break down what it means to be intersex, you can really start to get complicated.  I’ve been reading about Frasier Syndrome, which is basically gonadal dysgenesis, Swyer’s Syndrome, Hypopadia Syndrome, Klinefelter Syndrome, Turner Syndrome, Triplo X, Androgen Insensitivity Disorder (AIS), and Partial Androgen Insensitivity Disorder (PAIS).  There are many more, and I’m not going to give descriptions of each because I really don’t know much about a lot of this.  Basically, some of these intersex conditions concern missing chromosomes, extra chromosomes, different chromosomes, mixed or partial genetalia, or unusual genetalia from poor cell division or hereditary characteristics.  The point is these conditions appear to be medically and scientifically proven to exist.  Approximately 1 in every 100 people has an intersex condition, but the vast majority of these conditions go unnoticed for the lifetime of the person.  However, it appears there are some people that legitimately have some issues with gender identity.  Ok.  Fine.

Now, taking a lot of this into account, I still have a very difficult time accepting the movement to allow people to use the restroom of the sex that they identify with.  During the Charlotte city council meeting to approve this ordinance, 140 people spoke for and against the ordinance for over three hours.  I’m sitting here going over the notes and minutes from the meeting, and I am starting to see some similarities in all of the arguments.  Many of those arguing for the ordinance spoke of “equal rights” for transgender people.  Equal?  I can’t think of anything more equal than asking people with female anatomy to use the women’s restroom and people with male anatomy to use the men’s restroom.  That’s about as equal as it gets.  Many of the arguments for the ordinance discussed the fact that transgender people face massive harassment when using the restroom that aligns with their actual anatomy.  I find this to be a weak argument.  What group or label of people aren’t made fun of and harassed?  All of us face harassment of some sort:  Christians, Muslims, Hispanics, African-Americans, homosexuals, conservatives, liberals, obese people, unattractive people, young, elderly, and many others.  Simply being different in any way makes you a target, and truthfully we are all different than somebody else.  So, what is the answer?

Well, what about a third option when using the restroom?  A neutral gender restroom.  Those that speak out for transgender rights don’t like that.  It sets them apart from everyone else, and that isn’t fair.  You know what?  Life isn’t fair.  You can’t have your cake and eat it too.  What about educating people on the acceptance of transgenders in today’s society?  Of course, to be fair (which we love to do), you would have to discuss acceptance of each and every type of human identity that we are aware of.  Sounds daunting, and extremely unlikely.  Also, I believe that would start to take us in a direction that we shouldn’t be going.

When everyone wants rights, then no one gets rights.  That’s the way it works.  Today it’s transgender folks; tomorrow it’s people who identify as dogs.  Why are you laughing?  I’m as serious as a heart attack.  Recently, a very close friend of mine who runs a bar had to ask a patron to remove her collar and leash because she was making everyone else uncomfortable.  She stated that she identified as a dog because they have better hearts than humans (not a horrible argument in some cases), and that she enjoyed the “lifestyle.”  Now, where should this young women use the restroom?  Outdoors?  Like a dog?  Well, going to the bathroom in public is illegal.  Why is it illegal?  Because common sense and common decency in a civilized society allows us to comprehend that such actions are unacceptable.  That’s why we have laws.  To protect our citizens and common decency.

When you try to give any and every sect of people equal rights, or what I call special rights, then someone else will simultaneously surrender their rights.  If you allow transgender people to use whatever bathroom they desire, then what happens to the rights and privacy of the people using the correct bathrooms?  It goes down the drain.  The women’s bathroom is a sacred place.  A place I know nothing about and I have little desire to learn.  The female anatomy and general make up is insanely complex and deserves to keep its secrecy and intricacy behind closed doors.  I cannot imagine how uncomfortable women would become in a women’s restroom if they were forced to deal with a male intrusion.  I find this idea to be absolutely maddening.  Borderline insane.  Is this what our civilized society has become?

What about safety?  The Charlotte city council “believes” that sexual predators will not infiltrate the new ordinance to gain access to female bathrooms to ogle women, stare at women, or God forbid even worse.  Is this really the path we are willing to take; to put the safety and privacy of our women and children to the side so that a handful of confused people can feel better about themselves and their acceptance in this world?  I am blessed with three amazing sons, and haven’t had the experience of raising a beautiful girl.  Yet.  But, this I know for a fact.  If I send my daughter into a public restroom while I stand near the door, and a gentleman starts to walk into the restroom, I will kindly ask him not to enter.  If the man refuses my gentle request, I will physically make sure he does not enter that restroom.  Period.  I don’t care how much he feels like a woman.  I don’t care how much he identifies as a female.  It will not happen because common sense tells me that this is wrong.  And that is where we find ourselves today.  Lawmakers passing laws and ordinances without using common sense.  Or common decency.

The safety and privacy of our children and women is too valuable to abolish to please a small minority of people who want to be treated special.  This could easily open the door for people identifying with only God knows what, and then yelling out to the world that they refuse to not be accepted and protected.  Eventually, the lines between boys and girls will be so blurred that our children will be confused beyond comprehension.  In a society where anything and everything goes, where there is no foundation and no structure, where common sense has evacuated completely, the moral fiber that holds us together will dissipate and leave behind emptiness indescribable.  If we continue upon this course of action, then we deserve exactly what is coming for us.  All of us.  Speak up, and speak out.

The mayor of Charlotte, Jennifer Roberts, had this to say about the ordinance:

I’m pleased that Charlotte has sent a signal that we will treat people with dignity and respect, even when we disagree.

You know who isn’t being treated with respect?  The women and children of Charlotte.  The city of Charlotte has compromised safety and privacy for the simple title of an “inclusive city.”  As warm and fuzzy as that sounds, there are dangers lurking within that label that can only spell disaster and tragedy.  We must pray for the city of Charlotte and its leaders that hopefully they understand the insane mistake they have made, and that they make changes immediately.  I can promise you if such an ordinance is presented in Asheville, NC, you will see and hear me at the city council meeting.

We must not allow our communities to be plagued with the disease of progressive political correctness.  If you disagree with the notion that transgender people can use the restroom or the locker room at the local gym, you are not a bigot.  You do not believe in taking away the rights of others.  Now, people will try to convince you that you are close minded and borderline evil, but do not pay attention to such darkness.  You are right.  I will say it again.  You are right.  And don’t let anyone persuade you otherwise.  Keep an eye on this movement.  I fear that it is catching fire.  Remember, to not speak is to speak.  To not act is to act.  God bless.


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