Growing up in a small town, I had very little exposure to the homosexual lifestyle. That means I had none. I was taught that homosexuality is a sin; that I should hate the sin but not the sinner. It made sense to me. I always pictured gay people as a group of aliens; not necessarily from this world. I conjured up in my mind the comparison to leper communities and outcasts from society; people who had chosen a life of sin away from a benevolent God. A forgiving God. After I moved to Asheville, NC, and started working in the food service industry, I received a bit of an awakening; homosexuals were actually human beings that weren’t living in hiding covering up their sores. In fact, most of them were excellent human beings: caring, loving, understanding, humorous, and amazing tippers. It is safe to say I fell in love with many of them; remaining good friends to this day with many of my first gay friends.
So what are my feelings toward gay people today? Pretty much the same. I don’t really see gay people as gay people; they’re just people. They are fellow human beings and neighbors that have warmed my heart same as anyone. My wife and I often visited a wonderful lesbian couple that lived next door with our first son and had wonderful dinners and marvelous talks. Instead of seeing in people what society wants me to see, I’ve always aimed at seeing people for who they really are. I sometimes fail, but I try my hardest. If you look for the bad in people expecting you’ll find it, you surely will. I really don’t have all the answers to this one. Is homosexuality a choice? Is homosexuality something people are genetically born with? Is it like alcoholism, where people struggle with their genetics and have to choose the right path? Is it their special burden to bear? All I know is that I am not God, and it is not my role to judge. It is my role to love and learn. I think what I’m trying to say is that homosexuality is something that I simply do not fully understand. I have absolutely no idea why in the world a man would want to be with another man. It makes zero sense to me. Perhaps it’s something that I’m not supposed to understand. However, that doesn’t give me the right to tell people what to do with their own lives, no matter how little I understand it. Would I ever attend a gay wedding? Probably not. I do not believe I would be very comfortable in that situation, and I’m not even sure I can tell you why. I try to treat everyone the way I would want to be treated, and it usually works out well.
Friday was a big day for gay folks and their supporters in this country. We are all now well aware of the Supreme Court’s decision to federally lift any laws throughout the United States banning same-sex marriage. Everyone lunged toward their computers and mobile devices to show support for their fellow gay citizens on the social media outlet of their choice. Statements were made, memes were shared, and fingers were pointed in every direction. Profile pictures were regurgitated with a visit to facebook.com/celebratepride, and laughter and celebration filled the streets of America. But what was everyone really celebrating? Was it the fact that gay people could finally enter into a legal union? Or was it that conservative Christians got a little slap in the face? I think most of the celebration was genuine, but there are many underlying agendas at work here that a lot of people are dubious about. There are two main issues I have with the ruling on Friday from the Supreme Court: the processes taken to legalize gay unions, and the hypocrisy of our government and the journalistic left throughout these processes.
The Supreme Court sited Chapter 1 of the 14th Amendment as credence for their magnanimous decision. Here is that chapter:
All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the state wherein they reside. No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any state deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.
I’ve read this passage multiple times now in order to try and figure out what our supreme justices were thinking. I don’t get it. I thought everyone was already protected equally under the law. Remember, marriage is not a law and it most definitely isn’t a right; it’s an institution. Yes; I believe that marriage is the sacred union between one man and one woman. You want to know why? Because that’s the actual definition of the word. Gay marriage does not exist. You can’t have a homosexual union between a man and a woman; it’s an oxymoron. I know many of you are tired to death of hearing this. I know many of you don’t care what the meanings of words are. I do. Since marriage is indeed an institution of a traditional society, it has boundaries and limitations. Men and women who love each other marry and procreate children. Homosexual couples do not consist of one man and one woman, and they cannot physically procreate children; yet they want all the privileges of the sacrament of marriage even though they do not fit any of the criteria. They may indeed love each other, but the truth still remains that two men or two women cannot fulfill the requirements of marriage by definition. Am I being petty? I don’t think so at all. I am being quite serious. If one wants to fight for homosexual unions or partnerships with certain legally binding perks, then go for it. I for one am shocked that for so long a homosexual man could not visit his partner in the hospital during an illness. I think that is wrong and unacceptable. However, you wouldn’t ever accept an affirmative action application from a white man, would you? Of course not. The criteria and basic qualifications have not been met.
So why did the Supreme Court literally make up a “right” that didn’t exist for homosexuals to marry? Why not just let the people vote on it? Well, because they would lose in a landslide and they know it. If you’ve been paying attention to this issue, you know that states have been lifting their same-sex marriage bans at a rapid pace across the nation. However, in most cases it’s not even the state that lifted the ban. I live in North Carolina, so I’ll use what happened here as an example.
Same-sex marriage was illegal in North Carolina. However, many in the state legislature wanted to take it a step further and amend the state constitution to make sure that only marriage between a man and woman would be valid and recognized in North Carolina. So, it came to a vote for the general public. It was an absolute landslide, passing with 69% of the vote. The people had spoken. However, Obama’s newly appointed district judge from North Carolina, Judge Cogburn, saw things differently. The judge stated that the same-sex ban in North Carolina was unconstitutional, and therefore the ban was lifted. Just like that; like a magician pulling a rabbit out of a hat. The judge stated that same-sex marriage is “neither a political issue nor a moral issue.” Well, it’s definitely a political issue for many politicians; both President Obama and Hillary Clinton have both stated they believe marriage to be between one man and one woman, until it was necessary for them to change to stay aligned with their base voters. Not a moral issue? I believe District Judge Cogburn meant it wasn’t a moral issue to him. It was obviously a moral issue to 70% of North Carolinians.
The entire process has been hijacked all the way up to the recent Supreme Court decision. Federal judges across the nation started using the 14th amendment to squash same-sex marriage bans at will. They can’t legalize gay marriage through asking the citizenry what they want or believe, so they have to make up rights and rules and laws on a whim to get what they want. I know Friday was a big day for many of you. But just keep in mind while you are celebrating your victory to partake in something that you don’t qualify for, you are also celebrating the demise of democracy and the rise and increase of socialism and federal rule. It’s real.
As I scoured social media looking for something other than a rainbow, I couldn’t help but notice a lot of people not only excited about the Supreme Court decision, but excited about the entire week. “What a week!” many posts exclaimed. “A flag of hatred goes down and a flag of love rises!” I saw a lot of shares for a particular cartoon that I would like for you to take notice of. Here it is:
I want you to really pay attention to what is being said here. Many people see the confederate flag as a symbol of hate and slavery; many do not. Many see the rainbow flag as a symbol of freedom and love; many do not. Folks are literally saying that it is ok for my offensive symbol to be flown; but not others. This is ludicrous. This is one of the main issues I have with the LGBT community and the elected officials that support them. It’s not about equal rights; it’s about special rights. You better by all means agree with me and my plight for love, because if you don’t you are a bigot and a homophobe. Unfortunately, these are the views of a socialist; not a member of a free society. Take a look at the next two pictures below. The first is of the Buncombe County Courthouse in my city of Asheville, NC, and the second is obviously the White House.
Now ask yourself this question: Do you think you will ever see a Christian crucifix hanging from these buildings? What about the Confederate Battle Flag? This hypocrisy is as ultimate as it gets. The fact that President Obama lit up the white house with the emblematic colors of the LGBT flag shows that he doesn’t care about equal rights. This is in your face and I assure you he is laughing it up and having a good time with it. Honestly, it wouldn’t bother me if they hung flags and emblems for all beliefs and organizations, but they’ll never do that. They pick and choose their sides, just like they pick and choose which laws to enforce. It is politically driven. If you are exceptionally happy about the White House display, then you are accepting the fact that freedom of speech and expression is only for those people and beliefs you agree with. And that’s the truth of the matter; and that is indeed sad and depressing.
There was enormous outrage from the LGBT community after Indiana passed its Religious Freedom Restoration Act. Why? Because it allowed Christians to exercise freedom of religion which didn’t always coincide with the homosexual lifestyle. How dare you disagree with the LGBT community? How dare you allow your bigoted views to trample on my rights? You know, if I walked into a bakery owned by a homosexual couple and asked them to bake me a cake that they refused to make, it wouldn’t bother me at all. In fact, I would thank them for their honesty and move down the road to the next bakery. Remember, I would rather be offended then ask someone to give up their freedoms. That’s what living in a free country is all about. We have hundreds of different religions and belief systems, and once in a while they are not going to all agree with one another. Get over it, and move on. But it just doesn’t seem to work that way with everyone.
The scariest part about this is when the state starts to get involved. Now that gay “marriage” is legalized throughout the country, what happens to people who still believe that marriage should be between a man and a woman? I think the goal here is total annihilation of the opposition. It would not surprise me if certain phrases in the future are deemed by the state as “hate speech,” and refusal of any service to homosexuals is punishable by fine or jail time. Guess what? We already have the perfect example that is currently being appealed.
Homosexuals don’t want religious beliefs pushed on them. They don’t want the law of the land to be influenced by these same beliefs that may keep them from getting what they want. It goes both ways my friends. An appeal was recently issued by a New York couple for an incident that happened in September, 2012. Robert and Cynthia Gifford own a farm where they host weddings on their property. A lesbian couple called to book a wedding, and the Giffords refused because they believe that marriage should be between a man and a woman. The caller had recorded the call, and contacted and filed a complaint to the New York State Division of Human Rights. Last July, an administrative judge found the Giffords guilty of “sexual orientation discrimination.” They were fined $10,000 by the state and ordered to also pay $3000 to the couple, on top of attending staff re-education training classes to learn the state’s viewpoint on marriage. The appeal process has just recently started. There is a link below for the whole story.
The caller recorded the call. Why? To “catch” the Giffords. To set them up for discrimination against homosexuals. How easy it would have been to simply call another venue that hosted same-sex weddings. But that wouldn’t help achieve the ultimate goal here. There is a movement to shove homosexual rights down your throat to the point of choking the life out of you. And if you disagree or fight back? We, the state, will fine you and re-train (brainwash) you on how to properly treat your fellow human beings. Remember Memories Pizza in Indiana? The liberal media came parading into the restaurant and accused the owners of sexual orientation discrimination. Why? Because they stated that they probably would not cater a same-sex marriage. Everyone loves pizza at a reception, don’t they? It was a manhunt with a resounding purpose that is popping up everywhere; agree with us or face the consequences.
That is not America. America is about allowing everyone to have a right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Our current government wants to take those rights away from millions of people in order to appease 2% of the American population for political leverage. Most people don’t hate gay people. Most people, like myself, don’t give a flip what you do in your bedroom. Many of us have chosen to voice our support for traditional marriage, and that bothers a lot of LGBT supporters and politicians. And that’s fine that it bothers you. There’s nothing wrong about speaking out about what you believe in. But remember a free society does not mean you get what you always want. You are not the only one with rights, and sometimes what other people stand up for is going to offend you. Welcome to reality.
I love homosexuals. I love them all. They are not aliens or lepers, but wonderful people who run successful businesses and help create amazing communities. I don’t understand the lifestyle, but I respect the fight people are willing to make for what they believe in and what they want. But while you are fighting for your rights, simply make sure that you are not trampling on the rights of others in the process. I know gay people feel like their rights have been trampled on since the beginning. I know they feel like they have been pushed into a corner. I know it probably isn’t easy when Christians call you a sinner instead of offering love and support. I am well aware that homosexuality isn’t destroying heterosexual marriages in this country. I am not going to pretend here today that I understand the struggles of a gay person. I don’t. I really don’t. I am not going to condemn or judge. I simply want to be treated with the same respect everyone wants and should be granted. If you are a homosexual; I love you. I wish you the best in all that you do and hope you live your dreams to the fullest. I respect your rights as an American citizen and as a human being. I want you to experience the love of Jesus Christ in all its glory; because I know he loves you. I am willing to be tolerant of your viewpoints, although not always accepting. I expect nothing less from you. Now, let’s hug it out and move on. There are many other things that need our attention as American citizens, and as worldly human beings. God bless. Enjoy your Monday.